Why She Loves a Jackass

I've dated three women recently who were hopelessly hung up on their exes. They couldn't see having the same intimacy with someone different. Usually, the Jackass serves a very important purpose. Example:

Sandy loved her ex-boyfriend Mike. They had been together about eight years. He regularly cheated on her and emotionally abused her so badly that she spent at least three nights a week crying her heart out. This created a powerful (yet dysfunctional) bond between her and Mike.  In addition, Sandy formed a much closer bond with her friend Carla.  When she finally stopped dating Mike, she assumed all men were bad and continued dating bad men. After two years of being used and abused, she finally allowed herself to date a good and decent man. She was happier and felt loved and content, but the fear and anger (things she came to enjoy over the years) was missing. Also, her friendship with Carla had taken a big hit. 

Sandy had become addicted to the abusive and unhappy relationship, and also to the constant comfort of her friend.  When a decent man came along, there was no drama and no pain, so not only did she lose the key part of her relationship with Carla, she also lost what she most enjoyed about men.

Sandy's story is very typical, and it is part of the reason most women worship the Jackasses out there. They adore bad men, and find good men boring.  Perhaps most men are dishonest and abusive players, but an equal number of women are lifelong slaves to the worst men.  It's reality, but it doesn't make dating or marriage very easy for decent guys. 

Only Two Types

Guys, if you are wondering what women want, you don't have to wonder any more. Women like two types of men.  They don't like both types at the same time, usually preferring one type when they are young, and the second type when they are older.

The Obnoxious, Dishonest Jackass:  Women adore these men. These are the guys most men hate. They may or may not be high-status men, but they are arrogant and overly-confident. They see women only as something to ejaculate into, and care absolutely nothing for them as human beings. Women typically adore these men as "authentic" or "very masculine", and it takes them many years if not an entire lifetime to realize these aren't real men, just real assholes. Women go to elaborate lengths to claim they don't really like these guys; but of course - women are only saying "men are pigs", because they prefer the guys who treat them like shit.

The Weak, Controllable, Modern "Equality-Minded" Guy:  Women generally flock to these men once they have realized how unhappy the Obnoxious Dishonest Jackass has made them.  After having children and spending their youth on the jerks, they suddenly want a man who is kind, considerate, and loving to them.  Of course, they've already given what is best about them to the worst guys who care nothing for them.  How do they reward Mr. Nice Guy? - by controlling him!  The Weak, Controllable, Modern guy is so fucking nice that he'll do anything, put up with a complete loss of control, just for the remote chance of sex a few times a year.  

What to do?

If you enjoy relationships with women, don't commit!  Keep your relationships to the 90-day cycle. If you stop looking forward to sex, or she wants to convert you to a controllable type, it's time to leave. Remember, that most women dramatically understate the number of sex partners they've had. Most women still adore jerks, but they eventually change and want someone to control - a walking ATM, a household servant, someone to watch Lifetime Movies with. 

Even if you aren't naturally a jerk, if you want to really enjoy being with women, you have to remember NEVER to fully commit to a woman.  They'll only really love you if you are a complete shit, or a complete slave. The equality and partnership they always seem to say they want is a complete lie.  They want to dominate or be dominated.  Anything else is simply a standoff - it doesn't work in relationships between men and women. Either be absolutely in control, or be absolutely controlled.  

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