My Relationship

My time with the current girlfriend has been interesting. It's been six weeks and the sex is still great, but I already feel myself compelled to look around. She is painfully sweet and a good girl but I know she could do better than me. It is the kind of relationship that people dream of - but almost never find. She's sterile - tried to have children with the ex-husband, so we get to have unprotected sex all the time. She has money, so I could be a kept man, but I'm still keeping my options open.

At least I'm obeying my own rules: I'm only in a relationship when its all to my advantage.

I continue to be amazed....

I'm dating someone right now, but not seriously - and I am keeping finances separate and not taking chances with pregnancy. In other words, I'm having the fun without the headaches.

Everything was going fine. We had messed around in bed all afternoon and were drinking wine on the sofa when "Michael" called. Michael insisted my girl come and pick him up at the airport.

"Who is this guy?" I asked.

"Just a guy who wanted to date me, but we're just friends." She explained.

"He knows you have plans with me and he's insisting you pick his sorry ass up?"

She stammered and stuttered and apologized. Apparently, this ex-frat guy who has had lots of women around him in life had not been able to force my girl into bed. It drove him crazy and he couldn't stop thinking about her. I did ask the girl why she continued having any association with a guy she really didn't like and who was frustrated because he couldn't poke her. She didn't know why, but she felt the guys who were unavailable, and yet guys she didn't want, were really desirable guys - just to have around.

Insane, right?

The 90-Day Standard

More and more men are opting for the 90 day relationship. It has a lot of advantages. You get all the fun and excitement of great sex with a new woman, you enjoy discovering someone who is going to treat you well at the outset, you get gifts and favors, etc.

Of course, after 90 days, the woman is going to start making demands. She will start pressing for a relationship, start making changes (or attempting to make changes) in the guys life, laying down ultimatums, etc.

If you are there for the first 90 days and then break it off, you will have a good time and you won't have the usual problems that come with a mature relationship.

Recommended Reading

Probably the best MRA blog out there is in operation again. I hadn't seen it in months, but I guess the lazy sod started blogging again. Eternal Bachelor.

In a Temporary Relationship

I'm dating a very successful businesswoman now - and it is a lot of fun. She is very funny and intelligent and works in the banking industry. She is three years older than I am and we seem to be a very compatible couple.

I earn a good salary and live well, but this woman is a millionaire and will be when she retires. I've never dated anyone this successful and she seems to have the inclination to want to take care of me. She is open to getting me a new car, replacing my wardrobe and buying me a motorcycle.

Ironically, all of this is happening at a time when my professional position is taking off very quickly. I'm doing very well and dating someone who is doing very well.

I think I'm going to get all I can and move on after a while. Why not? Right?

Clarity

I have successfully gotten the old relationship out of my head. It's great to be single for Christmas, but I have been meeting women who are really hurting for companionship. Of course, they are looking for someone ideal, has money, will spoil them, etc.

It took me a long time to realize that I wanted to be single for life. Women will come and go, but you are always the same, so you have to decide if you want to dedicate many years of your life to being basically a professional companion/slave to a woman.

Don't forget that although there are obvious joys to being with a woman, they are quickly outweighed by the control, nagging, lack of freedom - and her need to always be changing you. Of course, she doesn't know what she wants, so she will always be working to change you into something she thinks she wants, but doesn't really want. It can be confusing.

Stay single, don't get married.

Working a New Business - and Random other Things

Just starting working with a business partner and things are going well. I haven't had time to post regularly, but I'm going to - just to keep the discussion alive.

As some of you know, I've been having endless debates with a woman I was dating a couple of years ago. She wanted to get married immediately and have children. No thanks to that. We did have very good chemistry, but she was really kind of a nut-bar, if you know what I mean...

Anyway, she is very much a part of the literary world and has been sending messages couched in some of her opinion pieces. She even uses my name directly and talks about a certain "type" of man...of course I fit the description very well. She knows I'm going to be in her town over Christmas, but I won't be getting into contact.

You see, the worst thing about revisiting an old relationship is that it isn't a second-time around, it is simply a continuance of the same old, same old. Women feel that if you come back into their lives, you might be "the One" which is a scary thought. What scared me...temporarily...but what scared me was that I was feeling the same things as well. I really should go and drink a lot to get this woman out of my head.

Tequila, maybe.

No, definitely.