Clarity

I have successfully gotten the old relationship out of my head. It's great to be single for Christmas, but I have been meeting women who are really hurting for companionship. Of course, they are looking for someone ideal, has money, will spoil them, etc.

It took me a long time to realize that I wanted to be single for life. Women will come and go, but you are always the same, so you have to decide if you want to dedicate many years of your life to being basically a professional companion/slave to a woman.

Don't forget that although there are obvious joys to being with a woman, they are quickly outweighed by the control, nagging, lack of freedom - and her need to always be changing you. Of course, she doesn't know what she wants, so she will always be working to change you into something she thinks she wants, but doesn't really want. It can be confusing.

Stay single, don't get married.

Working a New Business - and Random other Things

Just starting working with a business partner and things are going well. I haven't had time to post regularly, but I'm going to - just to keep the discussion alive.

As some of you know, I've been having endless debates with a woman I was dating a couple of years ago. She wanted to get married immediately and have children. No thanks to that. We did have very good chemistry, but she was really kind of a nut-bar, if you know what I mean...

Anyway, she is very much a part of the literary world and has been sending messages couched in some of her opinion pieces. She even uses my name directly and talks about a certain "type" of man...of course I fit the description very well. She knows I'm going to be in her town over Christmas, but I won't be getting into contact.

You see, the worst thing about revisiting an old relationship is that it isn't a second-time around, it is simply a continuance of the same old, same old. Women feel that if you come back into their lives, you might be "the One" which is a scary thought. What scared me...temporarily...but what scared me was that I was feeling the same things as well. I really should go and drink a lot to get this woman out of my head.

Tequila, maybe.

No, definitely.

Holiday Observations

I noticed over the past Thanksgiving week that something odd has happened. Men are having their own Thanksgivings and women and children are having another.

Brothers and friends are getting together for dinner and football.

Women, sisters and mothers are getting together for dinner and talking.

More and more families are fractured and broken. Women in the West are intolerable to live with and push men away. Western men are what women used to call "ideal husband material". I wonder why women decided to be men and ruin the special dynamic. I have some nephews who have never known a holiday when men and women are together and getting along. They simply shrug and say women are "jerks" who need to accept that men should be in control. When women are in control, everyone is unhappy. This is what really young people are saying!

Oh well, I guess most people like things the way they are as the problems are getting worse.

Scary Stuff

I just had an interesting conversation with a woman I dated very briefly. We stopped dating because she wanted to marry RIGHT NOW and I simply wasn't ready. I had a lot of personal issues and professional stuff going on and marriage wasn't right at that time.

She's going through a divorce now because her husband "didn't make enough money", so she is leaving him. To make things work for her, she swore out a false complaint of domestic violence. She was overjoyed to be able to take his car away from him, along with all their furniture. She's still fighting him for the house, but he has a good attorney in the family. Still, it looks like he's going to lose everything.

What I found interesting was that she was absolutely delighted that her friends were 100% supportive of her cruel behavior, yet her mother told her she was "doing wrong" and that her soon to be ex-husband was an ordinary decent guy who didn't deserve this horrible treatment. Only the very old realize that marriage and relationships are completely screwed up these days. Most women are thrilled with how badly they can treat men - and get away with it.

Interesting Observation

An older business contact I know told me men used to be much more dismissive and even abusive toward their wives. In the "old days" he said, women were ignored or treated badly, and they loved their husbands completely.

These days men in the West are the most egalitarian and accommodating to women, yet most men are pretty unhappy.

People wonder why the marriage rates are falling...

Short Term Relationship

I guess I was looking for trouble. I met what could only be described as a complete train wreck of a woman who was very good-looking, but in need of serious psychological work. We met, we went out for lunch, and then spent the last three days having what can only be described as crazy "monkey sex". We were at it non-stop for the longest time. I'm glad it's over and I know things shouldn't have happened, but we all need some insane fun now and then.

I think the end came when she said she really liked me, but if she happened to get pregnant, she would "kill it". I just about fell over. Kill it? What? Is she insane? I know lots of women are pro-choice or pro-abortion, but she was happy with the idea of killing a child.

I simply do not understand modern women. They are fun to play with, but not grown-up enough for a relationship.

Out of Commission

Sorry about no posts this week. I've had very good conversations with a lot of you - and a few very good comments. A lot of people write in to tell me who perfect women are, but I simply delete those comments. I've been busy this week with a new job which is consuming a lot of my time. I won't bore you with the details, but the job does give me a lot of free time and is exactly what I've been looking for.

I did have an interesting observation. At my workplace, there is an older woman of about 65 who does inside sales. She's "old world" all the way, very traditional and very serious about work. She earns about $120,000 doing inside sales. She works casual, but doesn't waste time.

Then we have a younger girl who doesn't do much of anything and seems to be hot and bothered for any guy who has good sales numbers. I'm single of course and hit the #1 spot on the sales board for this week. So, what do you think happened? I got post-it notes, phone messages and constant "conference requests" from this younger woman. She wanted me to close her sales for her, buy her lunch and maybe start taking her out. She simply didn't realize that I wasn't interested in her. She is attractive, but I generally avoid the overt gold-diggers.

Anyway, just more of the same. I'm off to get things done and run errands. It will be a busy Sunday; I'll have to avoid all the breast-cancer walks and ovarian cancer concerts going on this weekend. Thank God for the NFL. At least men have some interests to keep them going through the weekends.