Recently, one of the major sites - either MSN or Yahoo did a story on their singles site about how rotten shits do so much better in the dating world than do "decent guys".
We were told....
"Girls, you know the bad boys are more fun! He's good looking and confident and great in bed! He doesn't call you, doesn't care if you drop dead after he ejaculates, but he's the best the world has to offer. He'll cheat on you, give you a sexually transmitted disease, and you'll most likely spend decades of your life sexually and emotionally serving these shits who give you nothing in return."
But, the good news for "decent guys" is that you losers will eventually win in the end. After these women have been permanently emotionally and physically damaged or even ruined by the worst kind of men, these women will be done with sex and romance. That's your chance! You'll win the prize and get the love of the women you've always wanted. Of course she'll be bitter, jaded, prone to herpes outbreaks, fat, 3 kids and lots of emotional baggage, but you won't have to wait anymore. The jerks will finally be done using her and you can have her!
Isn't that great?!? Good guys do win the "prize" in the end...
*** I see this kind of bullshit in more and more "singles" venues. The women who worship assholes really don't deserve any attention from decent, shy or gentle type guys they normally avoid. Why should good guys pick up the shit women after the shit guys are done with them? I've had many women literally throw themselves at me after a lifetime worshiping shitheads. I wish them good luck and move on. There are plenty of women for a decent guy. Just remember the basics:
NEVER date a woman who has EVER been promiscuous.
NEVER date a woman who has EVER dated a married man - even non-sexually.
NEVER date a woman who is big on the "really bad boys".
NEVER date a woman who loves to share her memories of the assholes she used to date.
That leaves only a few good women out there to date, but women don't deserve nice guys or decent guys, or shy guys, or nerdy guys. They deserve the shits they are attracted to - what the mass media tells them to love.
Wednesday
Tuesday
Are You Hiring Women?
I don't. I won't hire a woman unless she is over 40.
Younger women are amazing in their similarities. It's true what they say about a "herd" mentality. The vast majority of women who come into my office asking for work are very promiscuous, very stupid, and ready for an easy job with a high paycheck.
This conversation is very typical in my office. The women are wonderful princesses, eating up jobs that men could do easily. I have five guys working the phones who are strong employees who have been with the company a long time. The rest of the chairs have been filled over and over with women who are convinced they want a big paycheck, but want none of that stuff called "work".
Of course my office demands effort and results. I don't run a government office of pencil-pushers. If I did, the law would FORCE me to hire a bunch of whiny fat bitch women who would do the absolute bare minimum or less while always looking for a reason to file a grievance against me or my office. I know government employees and they say it is now women's work. The women are forcing the men out. Vast government agencies are now about 90% women because the women only hire women and force out the men. They don't do anything except shuffle papers and vent their emotions. If the general public knew how wasteful and pointless MOST government agencies were, there would be mass hangings.
Nobody intentionally wants to hurt the feelings of women, but they don't need economy-destroying and resource-wasting jobs which serve no purpose. Why do our governments have such swollen employee lists? Because we HAVE to hire women and they don't want to work, they just want a paycheck. So every morning and every evening our freeways and roads are clogged with single women going to their pointless jobs. More and more men are in fields where they have to earn money. More and more men are doing commissioned work, dangerous work and law enforcement or military service. Women have all the cushy jobs where a big paycheck is guaranteed just for sitting around and talking about Oprah Winfrey.
Don't hire women unless they are over 40 or 45 and religious. Those women will work. Most of the others are just going to be a headache. Believe me, I've been a business owner or manager for the last 15 years. Women are a liability.
Younger women are amazing in their similarities. It's true what they say about a "herd" mentality. The vast majority of women who come into my office asking for work are very promiscuous, very stupid, and ready for an easy job with a high paycheck.
"Why aren't my sales numbers better?"
Well, dear... you have to ask for the sale. Identify the need, present the solution and then wrap up the close. If you have the answer to their problem, sell it to them and get a payment.
"But I already said I was with our company. Don't they just give me an order?"
No, Jennie, sales work isn't easy. You have to do a lot of convincing. People won't pay for things that sound good. They pay for things they want and need.
"Forget this shit. I quit."
Don't let the door hit your fat ass on the way out.
This conversation is very typical in my office. The women are wonderful princesses, eating up jobs that men could do easily. I have five guys working the phones who are strong employees who have been with the company a long time. The rest of the chairs have been filled over and over with women who are convinced they want a big paycheck, but want none of that stuff called "work".
Of course my office demands effort and results. I don't run a government office of pencil-pushers. If I did, the law would FORCE me to hire a bunch of whiny fat bitch women who would do the absolute bare minimum or less while always looking for a reason to file a grievance against me or my office. I know government employees and they say it is now women's work. The women are forcing the men out. Vast government agencies are now about 90% women because the women only hire women and force out the men. They don't do anything except shuffle papers and vent their emotions. If the general public knew how wasteful and pointless MOST government agencies were, there would be mass hangings.
Nobody intentionally wants to hurt the feelings of women, but they don't need economy-destroying and resource-wasting jobs which serve no purpose. Why do our governments have such swollen employee lists? Because we HAVE to hire women and they don't want to work, they just want a paycheck. So every morning and every evening our freeways and roads are clogged with single women going to their pointless jobs. More and more men are in fields where they have to earn money. More and more men are doing commissioned work, dangerous work and law enforcement or military service. Women have all the cushy jobs where a big paycheck is guaranteed just for sitting around and talking about Oprah Winfrey.
Don't hire women unless they are over 40 or 45 and religious. Those women will work. Most of the others are just going to be a headache. Believe me, I've been a business owner or manager for the last 15 years. Women are a liability.
Ensure an Exit Strategy
Remember that women are very independent these days. Their hearts are yearning for love, safety and understanding, but their heads want independence. I've found the best sex partners to be the high-powered career chicks. They love having a good boyfriend - someone who is thoughtful and kind, and always ready to give them a good romp in bed. But still... they are so pathologically independent that they almost always end up blowing a good thing. They get too clingy, but still want you to keep a respectful distance. They want you to lead, but they get to make all the choices. It's impossible to please them, and they will always give you a way out.
Examples:
Ava simply adored her ex-boyfriend, though he had married and moved on years ago. She still wrote to him, emailed him, and they kept in "friendly" contact though no sex was involved. After I enjoyed her for a few months, I asked her to put some emotional distance between her and her now married ex-boyfriend. She refused, so I broke things off. She tried over and over to get us back together, but I wouldn't have it. She simply wouldn't move on from the past, so I let her live in the past. I had a very good relationship with her, but it was time to move on. She is still hurting from the experience with me, but she still has her memories of the guy who came before. It all worked out.
Lisa was a prominent real estate exec in her town and we hit it off instantly. Great sex, great fun, restaurants, concerts, etc. She was so clingy I asked for some time off. She told me she loved me and wanted to live together. She has a huge house (5400 sq feet) and tons of money, so I asked if she wanted me to move in. Even though she lived alone, she said it would be a mistake, that she valued her independence. Fine, I said and broke things off. She cried for weeks and begged me to come back. I simply asked if she would reconsider having a life with me, living together - if not in her house, in a place together. She said no, that she could never give up her independence. I told her to enjoy that independence and I left her alone.
Lynne was probably the best match I've ever had in life. We had so much fun together, but she was very attached to an ex-boyfriend who was very abusive and frequently cheated on her. She never did say goodbye to this guy and remained "friends" with him during our relationship. I told her she needed to make a decision about him, but she didn't take me seriously. Eventually I discovered that she was keeping him as an option in case I didn't work out. I told her that if she was making backup plans in our relationship, it meant she really wanted him. I've recently learned they are back together but they are having problems because she keeps talking about how good things were with me.
You see, women are independent and attracted to the guys who are the worst possible choices. That's why women always say Men are Pigs. Men aren't pigs, but the men women choose are the biggest assholes out there. They they paint all men with that same perspective and decent men aren't interested in paying for the sins of jerks. Good men walk away. That's what you should do when dealing with these enlightened and independent women.
Examples:
Ava simply adored her ex-boyfriend, though he had married and moved on years ago. She still wrote to him, emailed him, and they kept in "friendly" contact though no sex was involved. After I enjoyed her for a few months, I asked her to put some emotional distance between her and her now married ex-boyfriend. She refused, so I broke things off. She tried over and over to get us back together, but I wouldn't have it. She simply wouldn't move on from the past, so I let her live in the past. I had a very good relationship with her, but it was time to move on. She is still hurting from the experience with me, but she still has her memories of the guy who came before. It all worked out.
Lisa was a prominent real estate exec in her town and we hit it off instantly. Great sex, great fun, restaurants, concerts, etc. She was so clingy I asked for some time off. She told me she loved me and wanted to live together. She has a huge house (5400 sq feet) and tons of money, so I asked if she wanted me to move in. Even though she lived alone, she said it would be a mistake, that she valued her independence. Fine, I said and broke things off. She cried for weeks and begged me to come back. I simply asked if she would reconsider having a life with me, living together - if not in her house, in a place together. She said no, that she could never give up her independence. I told her to enjoy that independence and I left her alone.
Lynne was probably the best match I've ever had in life. We had so much fun together, but she was very attached to an ex-boyfriend who was very abusive and frequently cheated on her. She never did say goodbye to this guy and remained "friends" with him during our relationship. I told her she needed to make a decision about him, but she didn't take me seriously. Eventually I discovered that she was keeping him as an option in case I didn't work out. I told her that if she was making backup plans in our relationship, it meant she really wanted him. I've recently learned they are back together but they are having problems because she keeps talking about how good things were with me.
You see, women are independent and attracted to the guys who are the worst possible choices. That's why women always say Men are Pigs. Men aren't pigs, but the men women choose are the biggest assholes out there. They they paint all men with that same perspective and decent men aren't interested in paying for the sins of jerks. Good men walk away. That's what you should do when dealing with these enlightened and independent women.
Friday
Why Women Love Jerks
"Most people get more love than they deserve." - Bertold Brecht
When you marry, sex stops. When you commit, expectations rise. However, if you are seen as very incapable in the romantic department, women will struggle to make up the difference. This is why they will ignore perfectly good men and devote decades to men who only use them for sex and comfort. Women don't want a man who loves them. Women want a man they have to continually work for.
They cook for him. They take his car to the shop. They don't care if he cheats. They don't care if he is a slob or has horrible personal habits. If he is hard to get and hard to reform, he must be the greatest thing on earth.
Sadly, most women spend most of their lives on guys who aren't worth shit. That gives most other guys license to treat women any way they please. Why be devoted, or loving, or kind, or exclusive or decent - when those are the last traits women seek in a man?
When you marry, sex stops. When you commit, expectations rise. However, if you are seen as very incapable in the romantic department, women will struggle to make up the difference. This is why they will ignore perfectly good men and devote decades to men who only use them for sex and comfort. Women don't want a man who loves them. Women want a man they have to continually work for.
They cook for him. They take his car to the shop. They don't care if he cheats. They don't care if he is a slob or has horrible personal habits. If he is hard to get and hard to reform, he must be the greatest thing on earth.
Sadly, most women spend most of their lives on guys who aren't worth shit. That gives most other guys license to treat women any way they please. Why be devoted, or loving, or kind, or exclusive or decent - when those are the last traits women seek in a man?
Tuesday
Never Forget What Women Prefer
I've met a lot of women in the dating world who simply aren't honest about what they prefer. I decided to do an informal research study. Here are the results:
1. Donna is 80 years old. For the last forty years she has been married to her second husband who was a notorious womanizer. He stopped cheating on her around age 60. He is awful, boorish, obnoxious and painfully annoying to be around. She loves him more than God.
2. Candy is 45. She is in an on-again, off-again relationship with a man who cheats on her at least twice a year. They always get back together and she makes endless excuses for him, but loves him unconditionally.
3. Renee is 29. She has a boyfriend who hits her and screams at her, but of course they always make up and then she gets all excited about the hot sex that happens afterward. Yeah, those bruises and police visits are really hot, aren't they? Sheesh.
Women prefer assholes, so don't disappoint them. They simply don't like decent guys and will break the hearts of dozens of good guys in order to find the one guy who will make them miserable. I've had women argue with me that only "unhealthy" women prefer the shitheads, but I've found it to be true that most women adore the creeps and take a pass on the nice guys.
It is interesting that this has it's advantages. I've always been a good-guy type, the type that women would have loved to have as a husband, say, back in 1950. I've found that I'm able to score with a lot of girls that just want a man to love them, and make them feel valuable and pretty. I go in, have a lot of fun sexually and let them treat me like a king, then I allow their Mr. Wonderful come back into their life and I leave. I get to be both the good guy and the player, and they have to go back to their jerk (which is really where they want to be).
Think I'm nuts? If you remember that women thrive on emotion, you'll realize that they need drama, pain and tears. They need the jerks and assholes. They don't want or need a good guy. But eventually, the pain is simply too much and they need the diversion of a good guy, if only to truly feel loved for a short time. That is the time to enjoy yourself and take advantage of the situation.
1. Donna is 80 years old. For the last forty years she has been married to her second husband who was a notorious womanizer. He stopped cheating on her around age 60. He is awful, boorish, obnoxious and painfully annoying to be around. She loves him more than God.
2. Candy is 45. She is in an on-again, off-again relationship with a man who cheats on her at least twice a year. They always get back together and she makes endless excuses for him, but loves him unconditionally.
3. Renee is 29. She has a boyfriend who hits her and screams at her, but of course they always make up and then she gets all excited about the hot sex that happens afterward. Yeah, those bruises and police visits are really hot, aren't they? Sheesh.
Women prefer assholes, so don't disappoint them. They simply don't like decent guys and will break the hearts of dozens of good guys in order to find the one guy who will make them miserable. I've had women argue with me that only "unhealthy" women prefer the shitheads, but I've found it to be true that most women adore the creeps and take a pass on the nice guys.
It is interesting that this has it's advantages. I've always been a good-guy type, the type that women would have loved to have as a husband, say, back in 1950. I've found that I'm able to score with a lot of girls that just want a man to love them, and make them feel valuable and pretty. I go in, have a lot of fun sexually and let them treat me like a king, then I allow their Mr. Wonderful come back into their life and I leave. I get to be both the good guy and the player, and they have to go back to their jerk (which is really where they want to be).
Think I'm nuts? If you remember that women thrive on emotion, you'll realize that they need drama, pain and tears. They need the jerks and assholes. They don't want or need a good guy. But eventually, the pain is simply too much and they need the diversion of a good guy, if only to truly feel loved for a short time. That is the time to enjoy yourself and take advantage of the situation.
Friday
Mr Wonderful, yet again...
The fun thing about dating women over 30 is that there is always a Mr. Wonderful in the past. This has come up in other discussions on other boards, but it bears revisiting.
Many women attach to a certain guy in their past they simply cannot get away from. You can use this to your advantage. In my most recent relationship, I allowed this woman to continue phone contact with her ex-boyfriend until it became an issue. She then asked me if it would make me happy if she would tell him never to call again. At this point I'd already had my 90 days of "new romance - great sex". It was time to move on. I replied to her "No, I can't tell you what to do. Your interaction with him is none of my business. If you forgave him for all the stuff he did and you'll still take his phone calls, I think you still have a very strong romantic love for him."
Notice what I just did. To any guy, what I said sounds stupid beyond belief. Yet to a woman, it sounds like some profound insight. Remember that women work on feelings, on emotions. I told her that I have no business in her relationship with her ex - and that she still must have very strong love for him. I basically reframed the discussion. Instead of being "new boyfriend has hangups", I turned it into "girl still longs for ex-boyfriend even though she thought she loved new guy".
She's still working it out with her ex so I'm laying low and pretending to be extra busy with work so I haven't seen her in a few days. Her family and friends are furious with her for thinking about giving up a good guy to return to the biggest turd she ever dated.
I've done this over and over. I'm only interested in the "new romance" time when everything is easy-going and the sex is incredible. Then after the first "I love you's" are over, I artfully move them back to a focus on their ex. It doesn't take long. Most women would date Charles Manson over a decent, kind man. They are thrilled by the drama and love the constant breaking up and getting back together. I don't care for all that drama so I just check in for a few happy months, then move on. Take everything they can offer, because they would rather give it to a guy who isn't worth shit.
Of course, there is a parting gift. I've had several women tell me that breaking up with a good guy (me), was far more painful than breakups with the jerks. I even had one say "You hurt me more than you could ever imagine." - and this is after she broke things off with me to be with a jerk ex-boyfriend.
Meet, romance, get into bed quickly. Enjoy yourself, but then remind them that their Mr. Wonderful is who they should be with. Do this tactfully. When things fall apart, she is back with her crappy guy. With luck, she'll have profound regrets that she lost you. You got what you wanted, a short term romance with lots of sex. She got what she wanted, emotional drama and getting back with her ex. Everyone is happy.
Many women attach to a certain guy in their past they simply cannot get away from. You can use this to your advantage. In my most recent relationship, I allowed this woman to continue phone contact with her ex-boyfriend until it became an issue. She then asked me if it would make me happy if she would tell him never to call again. At this point I'd already had my 90 days of "new romance - great sex". It was time to move on. I replied to her "No, I can't tell you what to do. Your interaction with him is none of my business. If you forgave him for all the stuff he did and you'll still take his phone calls, I think you still have a very strong romantic love for him."
Notice what I just did. To any guy, what I said sounds stupid beyond belief. Yet to a woman, it sounds like some profound insight. Remember that women work on feelings, on emotions. I told her that I have no business in her relationship with her ex - and that she still must have very strong love for him. I basically reframed the discussion. Instead of being "new boyfriend has hangups", I turned it into "girl still longs for ex-boyfriend even though she thought she loved new guy".
She's still working it out with her ex so I'm laying low and pretending to be extra busy with work so I haven't seen her in a few days. Her family and friends are furious with her for thinking about giving up a good guy to return to the biggest turd she ever dated.
I've done this over and over. I'm only interested in the "new romance" time when everything is easy-going and the sex is incredible. Then after the first "I love you's" are over, I artfully move them back to a focus on their ex. It doesn't take long. Most women would date Charles Manson over a decent, kind man. They are thrilled by the drama and love the constant breaking up and getting back together. I don't care for all that drama so I just check in for a few happy months, then move on. Take everything they can offer, because they would rather give it to a guy who isn't worth shit.
Of course, there is a parting gift. I've had several women tell me that breaking up with a good guy (me), was far more painful than breakups with the jerks. I even had one say "You hurt me more than you could ever imagine." - and this is after she broke things off with me to be with a jerk ex-boyfriend.
Meet, romance, get into bed quickly. Enjoy yourself, but then remind them that their Mr. Wonderful is who they should be with. Do this tactfully. When things fall apart, she is back with her crappy guy. With luck, she'll have profound regrets that she lost you. You got what you wanted, a short term romance with lots of sex. She got what she wanted, emotional drama and getting back with her ex. Everyone is happy.
Tuesday
My Relationship
My time with the current girlfriend has been interesting. It's been six weeks and the sex is still great, but I already feel myself compelled to look around. She is painfully sweet and a good girl but I know she could do better than me. It is the kind of relationship that people dream of - but almost never find. She's sterile - tried to have children with the ex-husband, so we get to have unprotected sex all the time. She has money, so I could be a kept man, but I'm still keeping my options open.
At least I'm obeying my own rules: I'm only in a relationship when its all to my advantage.
At least I'm obeying my own rules: I'm only in a relationship when its all to my advantage.
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